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“Poor White Trash”, Coming-of-age saga, Dog Bone Soup: A Boomer’s Journey by Bette A Stevens, Growing up poor in America, Maine Author Bette A Stevens
In Dog Bone Soup: A Boomer’s Journey, Maine author Bette A. Stevens reminds us that being poor should not define who we are as individuals. With determination as well as the helping hand and guidance of those who care, we can become the person we aspire to be. Herself a boomer, Stevens takes us back to America of the 1950s and 1960s. On leaving home to enter the U.S. Army, eighteen-year-old Shawn Daniels looks back on growing up in Lebanon, Maine, where his family was scorned as “nothing but poor white trash.”
Shawn’s narrative contains no mention of the year or his age. Only his school grade records the passing years. His earliest memory is of watching mice scamper across the rafters as he lay in bed at nights. Having one as a pet appealed to him. Their home was a two-room log cabin with two small windows. About four years old at the time, he was too young to understand how harsh conditions were for his mother to raise three kids without electricity and indoor plumbing.
When his mother moved out, taking only his baby sister with her, Shawn’s life and that of his younger brother took a downward turn. Gone were his days of fishing with his dad. For about a year or so, the brothers lived in a foster home with strict rules. They went hungry and were often confined to their room as punishment for misbehavior or bad table manners.
The year Shawn started kindergarten, they became a family once more. His father had won his mother back by moving to Lebanon where he got a job in the tannery. He rented a third-floor apartment with two bedrooms, electric lights, hot and cold running water, flush toilet, and a giant bathtub. [According to the 1960 U.S. Census, the town of Lebanon in Maine had a population of 1,534 of mostly white Americans.] Shawn’s carefree days of playing with his newfound friends lasted for about three years. The cost of living in town was too much for his father.
Shawn was eight years old when their days of the good life ended. To cut down on their living expenses, his father built a makeshift house in rural Edden, three miles away. No running water. No indoor flush toilet. His mother insisted on electric installation for powering the refrigerator and radio. As the eldest, Shawn’s day began with fetching several buckets of water from the well and splitting wood to fit in the stove.
When Shawn’s best friend since first grade discovered that he had to pee in a pot at nights, their friendship was never the same again. So began the teasing and bullying because Shawn’s family was poor and his father a drunkard. He hated school. Saturday was his favorite day of the week. He went bike riding, fishing, hunting, and sledding in the winter.
Throughout Shawn’s narrative, we see a boy who does not shirk his responsibilities as the eldest child. Always respectful towards adults, he is open to learning new skills and taking on odd jobs to earn money to help his mother with expenses. During the days of dog bone soup and onion sandwiches, he holds onto his dream to become a better man, husband, and father than his dad.
Author Bette Stevens describes well the family dynamics of parents whose values and goals are miles apart. She puts to excellent use her experience as a teacher in encouraging and guiding a good student who struggles to overcome the odds stacked against him. She makes clear that being poor should not prevent a child from developing their full human potential. What’s more, it takes more than the family to steer that child in the right direction. Shawn Daniels is never alone on his grinding, boomer’s journey to adulthood.

Bette A. Stevens is a retired elementary and middle school teacher, a wife, mother of two and grandmother of five. Stevens lives in Central Maine with her husband on their 37-acre farmstead where she enjoys writing, reading, gardening, walking, and reveling in the beauty of nature. She advocates for children and families, for childhood literacy, and for monarch butterflies, an endangered species. Learn more at https://4writersandreaders.com/
In my researches into the past history of an English private school, it became very obvious very quickly that there were so many poor children who just needed some help, usually in the form of a scholarship, to fulfil their enormous potential. I found the son of a train driver who finished up at Oxford University and the son of carpenter at Cambridge University.
And these children were far from unique. If only this country could give help to its poorer children, every single one would achieve marvellous things.
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Thanks for sharing this data, John. I agree with you. Scholarships worldwide have changed the lives of millions of poor kids. We all benefit when they succeed.
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I’m with you all the way!
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A sensitive review – as always
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Thanks very much, Derrick 🙂
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I absolutely agree with your opinion!
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Excuse me, Rosaliene, I wanted to say that I agree that poor children too can achieve big things, but maybe with the help of the society! Many thanks for having presented this book!
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Martina, I’m glad that you appreciate my review. Bette Stevens makes clear in her novel the role that society plays in helping or breaking the spirit of our poor kids.
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You’re so right, Martina.
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Nice review, Rosaliene. Coincidentally I am reading Marilyn Robinson’s gorgeous novel, Lila, which tenderly explores poverty and isolation in a small American community. Those boomers who were lucky enough to lead comfortable lives, go to college and become soccer parents need reminders that American is full of boomers who have struggled their whole lives.
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Glad you like my review, Kim 🙂 It’s good to know that more stories are being told about poverty in America. It was Sarah Smarsh’s memoir “Heartland: A Memoir of Working Hard and Being Broke in the Richest Country on Earth” (USA, 2018) that introduced me to the other America.
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Thanks for your comments, Kim. I’ll be adding Lila to my TBR.
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On one level your review reminded me that the conditions of the protagonist’s existence might not have been thought remarkable in the US 120 years ago. On another, the sharp edge of social comparisons slices many lives down to size, especially when growing up. Thank you for the excellent review, Rosaliene.
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That is so true, Dr. Stein. Those of us who belittle others as “white trash” have forgotten the struggles of our grandparents and great grandparents when they first arrived in America to begin a new life.
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Thanks so much for adding to the conversation, Dr. Stein.
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Thanks for writing a book that provokes reflection, Ms. Stevens.
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It’s quite amazing that so many people from difficult, precarious childhood situations become excellent adults. It almost seems miraculous.
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That’s so true, Neil! It’s the miraculous work of individuals, such as our teachers and oftentimes strangers, who help us along the way.
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There are so many children out there who need us in their corner. So grateful for all those who help them shine!
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Poverty, prejudice and social justice… I invite you to visit Rosaliene’s blog, read her comprehensive review of Dog Bone Soup, and check out the nsightful comments from Rosaleine and her readers. Come join the conversation. It takes a village! ~ Bette A. Stevens
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Bette, thank you so much for sharing my review with your readers. Much appreciated 🙂
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Hugs!
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Dear Rosaliene,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful review for Dog Bone Soup. The wonderful conversation between you and your readers inspires us all to become part of the solution to a social problem that mainstream culture continues to ignore.
Thanks for shining your light!
Bette
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Bette, I’m happy that you like my review. When writing book reviews, I’m always wary of giving away too much of the story line.
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A fabulous and insightful review of Bette’s book Dog Bone Soup. Thank you for sharing!
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My pleasure, Miriam 🙂 Thanks for reading.
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You’re welcome, Rosaliene. ☺️
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I read this book years ago and loved it. Your review brought it all back. Bette writes beautifully. Congrats to her on another lovely review. 🙂
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Bette, does indeed write beautifully. She drew me into Shawn’s world from the first sentence and held me there until the end. My sigh of relief that he had survived throughout it all was so loud that my son asked me if I was alright.
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LOL. How cute of your son. 🙂 All’s well.
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Fabulous review. I can relate to how our childhood teachers (and coaches!) have such an influence on our lives. Mine certainly did.
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Thanks a bunch, Priscilla. Same here. I’m here today thanks to the fine teachers I’ve had in my youth. I was never a sports person so I haven’t had any coaches in my life.
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What a terrific review and a compelling story. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about Bette’s book, Rosaliene!
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My pleasure, Barbara. So glad you like my review 🙂
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I loved Dog Bone Soup and reviewed it here: https://www.amazon.com/review/RIRKDX1JN5G10/ref=pe_1098610_137716200_cm_rv_eml_rv0_rv
Thank you for adding to the accolades for this book!
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What a wonderful review, Marian! It’s interesting to read what someone else thinks about a book that touched my heart.
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Hugs!
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It’s really interesting to know about a different narrative of the Boomer times when the mainstream narrative is about prosperity
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Isn’t it? Millions of white Americans have also been left behind. And we in America wonder why there’s so much disaffection among right-wing conservatives.
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Exactly, and there’s the opioid epidemic too
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So glad you reminded me of the opioid epidemic, TCK. Despair made visible.
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Indeed. I read this book Dopesick by Beth Macy and she concentrates on the areas where opioid addiction is a major problem, and they are predominantely white. I actually did my senior thesis on the opioid epidemic, so I had to learn everything there was to know about it
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I love this detailed review! I have this book on my Kindle and look forward to reading it! Thank you, Rosaliene for sharing your thoughts on it and congrats to Bette!
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Thanks for dropping by and reading my review, Jan 🙂
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I read Dog Bone Soup in two days as I was engaged the entire time. Great read!
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Thanks for dropping by, Pete. Bette’s novel is, indeed, engaging. Wishing you all the best with your book in progress 🙂
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A very touching story indeed! There are a number of poor backgrounds I’m familiar with, but today their lives are turned around. So I tend to agree with the author that poverty cannot define you
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Glad you liked my review. Breaking free from the boxes constructed by society is no easy task.
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Roasliene, a superlative review of a book that touched me deeply and has stayed with me ever since. Shawn’s trials through life are heartwrenching and yet his spirit, warmth and kindness carry him through. Bette’s writing is powerful and this is an incredible story. Congratulations to Bette!
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Thanks very much, Annika. Shawn’s positive attitude is infectious. Bette has created an enduring character.
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Hugs and many thanks!
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This is a fantastic book, and I highly recommend it!
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Thanks so much, Noelle! ❤
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Lovely review with a few points I hadn’t thought of before.
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Thanks so much, Jacqui 🙂
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I also enjoyed the book, Rosaliene. Thank you for featuring it and Bette today.
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My pleasure, John 🙂
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What a lovely review of this book. I read it a while ago but I still remember Shawn’s journey.
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Thanks very much, Robbie 🙂 Some characters remain with us for a long time.
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I did not have Shawn’s entire experience, but we had a huge old house, complete with outhouse, the chamber pots, the lugging and cleaning of these, lugging water from a well, and then one day from a pump out front of the house to wash dishes and laundry, lugging wood for fires to warm the house. This was pretty much living as my folks had during their childhood. I was in high school when we got indoor plumbing. Yet I was the first in my family to go to college, I should recall my grandmother who also went to college as she was a teacher, who was not allowed to teach once married. I believe it was the law that prevented this in her day. The undercurrent was to do better, and be more. I did not think of us as poor because of how we lived life. My mother worked to become a nurse, my father worked for a potato farmer. But they lived as we did, a lot of hard work. I became a farm wife. We divorced, I remarried. Then became the artist and writer I am now. The point is we can become different and live differently. My parents did not know how to live differently and were caught up in how they understood life was.
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Pejj, thanks for dropping by and sharing your story 🙂
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Thank you for sharing!!… I read the book also, brought back memories of when I grew up on a small farm in the 1940’s, ’50’s and ’60’s, joined the USMC in 1962 and ended up in Vietnam… I can relate a great deal with Shawn…. 🙂
Until we meet again..
May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
Brightened by a song
in your heart,
And warmed by the smiles
of people you love.
(Irish Saying)
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My pleasure, Dutch! So glad to know that you, too, can relate with Shawn’s journey 🙂
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