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Brazilian Poet Martha Medeiros, Finding happiness, Human Relationships, Poem “After” by Martha Medeiros, Poema "Depois" por Martha Medeiros, Porto Alegre/ Rio Grande do Sul/Brazil

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My Poetry Corner September 2022 features the poem “After” (Depois) by Brazilian poet, journalist, and chronicler Martha Medeiros, born in 1961 in Porto Alegre, capital of Brazil’s southern State of Rio Grande do Sul. With more than thirty books published, many of which have been adapted for theater, TV, and the cinema, she has become one of the most read and respected writers in Brazil.
In the 1980s, after graduating in Social Communication from the Pontifical Catholic University of Rio Grande do Sul, Medeiros started out as a copywriter and content creator in advertising and marketing. Her debut poetry collection Strip-Tease, published in 1985, received great success. Over the next sixteen years, ending in 2001, she published five more books of poetry. Her favored themes were love, lovelessness, and relationships.
In the poem “The measuring tape of love,” she concludes: It’s not height, weight, or muscles that make a person great. / It’s their immeasurable sensitivity.
The extensive list in the poem “What is the purpose of a relationship?” includes:
A relationship has to serve you in feeling 100% comfortable with the other person… To teach one to trust, to respect the differences that exist between people… A relationship has to serve for one to forgive the weaknesses of the other…
During her thirties, Medeiros’ professional life took an unexpected turn in 1993 when she accompanied her husband to Santiago, Chile, for his nine-month work project. Leaving behind her advertising career, she dedicated her time to writing poetry and began experimenting with chronicles about everyday life in Santiago.
On her return to Brazil, Medeiros took advantage of an opportunity to begin publishing her chronicles in the newspaper Zero Hora in Porto Alegre. In 1995, she published her first collection of chronicles together with her fourth collection of poetry. Three successive publications of her chronicles led to a literary prize and adaptation for the theater. An invitation in 2004 to begin writing a column for the O Globo newspaper, based in Rio de Janeiro, increased her visibility and popularity across Brazil. Her poetic sensibility captured the hearts of readers.
When asked about her decision to write about everyday life, during her 2018 interview with Eder Fonseca for Panorama Mercantil newspaper, Medeiros said, “When one is not an expert in anything (neither fashion, nor gastronomy, nor sport, nor politics, nor economics), you end up adopting life itself as raw material, your reactions to everyday events. That’s what happened to me.”
The featured long poem “After” speaks to those of us who, in everyday life, wait for the perfect or ideal situation to find happiness.
We convince ourselves that life will be better after... after finishing our studies, after getting a job, after we get married, after we have a child, after we have another child.
Then comes the frustrations because our children are not yet / grown up enough… // Afterward, we despair because they are teenagers, unbearable. So, we look to earning more in our job or profession to obtain the things that would make us happy.
When we have a better car... When we can go on a vacation... When we get a promotion... When we retire...
In postponing to enjoy life for after, we miss the opportunities to be happy NOW. Happiness is a journey, not a destination, the poet declares.
Work like you do not need money... Love like you have never been hurt and dance like no one is watching!
To read the complete featured poem “After” in English and its original Portuguese, and to learn more about Martha Medeiros and her work, go to my Poetry Corner September 2022.
NOTE: Excerpts of poems by Martha Medeiros translated by Rosaliene Bacchus.
Thank you, Rosa, for the introduction to the interesting writer/poet.
Joanna
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My pleasure, Joanna 🙂
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Fascinating. I particularly identify with her decision to write about everyday life
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Thanks very much, Derrick 🙂
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What Martha Medeiros deals with in her poem is one of our basic evils, which is addressed very strongly in Zen Buddhism in particular: We live in the illusion that things will be better in the future (or, alternatively, that they were better in the past). But we live only, exclusively, in the NOW. Once we understand this, it has immediate implications for our lives and our selves.
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Friedrich, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Since both the past and future have a way of intruding in my life, I often have to remind myself to live in the NOW.
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Such a beautiful poem❣️
Thank you, Rosaliene, for sharing it and writing about its author
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Luisa, I’m so glad that you’ve enjoyed Martha’s poem 🙂
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You’re highly welcome!🙏
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Thank you, Rosaliene, for introducing us to this exceptional writer. Avoiding the impulse to wait for “after” for things to be better is VERY wise poetic advice.
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Dave, I’m glad that you, too, can appreciate her work 🙂
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Great great reminder about how to live our lives. We are always reaching for the next brass ring. Today, maybe we should stop and enjoy all we have already collected. Thanks for the reminder and sharing this poet, Rose. xox
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Pam, I’m so glad that you could also connect with Martha’s poem. My pleasure 🙂
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Thanks 🙏 Rose.
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I very much appreciate your introduction of the writer Martha Medeiros, Rosaliene, and her opinion about happiness in our present live. It seems to me, if we are not able to find it now, we wouldn’t find it in another life.
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So true, Martina. Some of us are never satisfied. Instead, we continue to grasp for more and more.
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“After,” as the poet reminds us, is an eternal truth. Thank you for reminding us through her words, Rosaliene.
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You’re welcome, Dr. Stein 🙂
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Morning, Rosaliene. I noticed that you translated the poem excerpts. How many languages are you fluent in?
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Neil, I’m only fluent in two languages: English (Anglo-Caribbean) and Portuguese (Brazil). I still struggle with the American pronunciation of some words, but I’m getting there 🙂
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I enjoyed learning about Martha Medeiros. Thank you, Rosaliene. 🙂
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My pleasure, Sunnyside 🙂
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On point, this is a disease of many! We always chase tomorrow while we never get satisfied with the present. Martha is a very good Poet!
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AWV, I’m glad that you also like Martha’s work 🙂
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She produces an extremely perceptive set of ideas here, and in the complete poem itself. Most people live their lives exactly as they shouldn’t, and they never even realise what they should be doing.
I particularly liked her phrase “dance like no one is watching”, although I would have to admit that is the only way I myself can dance!
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John, I couldn’t hold back the laugh at your final comment 😀 I used to go dancing a lot in my younger days. Thanks for taking the time to read the complete poem. We even ruin our relationships in always wanting/demanding something more to be happy. I’ve recently witnessed the unfortunate break-up of a young couple with a two-year-old son for this very reason 😦
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I had heard of the dance like no one is watching quote but never knew who it was attributed to, similarly this poets thoughts on how we pin happiness on events and timeframes out in front of us. A wonderful post Rosaliene, I truly enjoyed it.
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Thanks very much, Kate. I’m so glad that you’ve enjoyed Martha’s poem 🙂
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“We convince ourselves that life will be better after…” oh how true it is and will we ever learn to just live and enjoy the present. Thank you for the reminder as well as introducing me to another great poet.
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My pleasure, Bridget: Thanks for adding your comments. I’ve observed that our interpersonal relationships are also impacted by this tendency.
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Thank you for the introduction to such a wonderful poet ~ very powerful writing.
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Randall, thanks for dropping by. I’m so glad that you find Martha’s poetry powerful 🙂
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There is a lot of wisdom in these words of Martha Medeiros reminding us that there’s plenty to be happy and thankful about right now. I also like the balance in what she writes about relationships needing to be 100% comfortable, respecting differences, and forgiving weaknesses. To me, that means the differences and weaknesses can’t be too big. When we overlook the small stuff, close relationships can be completely comfortable most of the time.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts, JoAnna. Her mention of needing to be 100% comfortable in a relationship also struck me. I imagine that great differences on major issues would make this difficult.
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Thank for introducing us to her. So many can relate to these words and I know that I used to be one of them.
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My pleasure, Belladonna 🙂
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I’ve read this before and was so happy to be reminded of this beautiful poem.
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Thanks for dropping by, Becky 🙂
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It’s certainly my pleasure!
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I really like the definition about what a relationship is. It’s so on point Rosaliene….will check out her work.
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AWV, her definition is for sure on point. Glad you like her work 🙂
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