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Dolling Up, Georgetown/Guyana, Old Year’s Night Ball, Stay-at-Home Working Mom, Year-End Festivities

December was the most hectic month for my stay-at-home working Mom. As a sought-after dressmaker among middle-class women in the capital, Georgetown, Mom had little time for Christmas shopping, home decoration, and preparation of our traditional Christmas dinner specialties. Guyanese love to party. The Christmas and year-end festivities meant parties galore: office parties, nightclub parties, and house parties. The greatest fete of all was the Old Year’s Night Ball to welcome in the New Year with a bang.
As early as October, to ensure that their dresses were done on time, Mom’s clients who had several functions to attend would start bringing in their dress materials. For the Old Year’s Night Ball, no expense was spared when choosing the best imported fabrics. Clients could select designs from fashion magazines—JC Penney, McCall’s, Sears, and Vogue—Mom made available. A few clients brought clippings of photos from women’s magazines featuring the rich and famous. At the time, Audrey Hepburn, Elizabeth Taylor, and Jacqueline Kennedy were the rave. I enjoyed a front seat view of the woman’s world of dolling up for parties and other social events to attract a mate or to hold onto your man or husband.
I was a thirteen-year-old teenager in high school when Mom began sewing for three attractive working-class women of Portuguese descent. All in their twenties, the three friends worked in the office wing of Bookers Guiana General Store. To protect their identity, I’ll call them Catherine, Marcella, and Yvette. Catherine was the most beautiful with hair and features to rival those of the French actress Catherine Deneuve. Yvette had muscular shoulders and arms from playing tennis at a competitive level. Marcella was a dark-haired beauty like the American actress Rita Morena in West Side Story (1961).
Marcella filled Mom’s sewing room with her vivacious personality. During her visits, she spilled the latest gossip of who was “sleeping with” whose wife or husband. She poured out her woes about dating and in dealing with the men in the office. Mom was an excellent listener. I soaked it all in while I assisted Mom with the handwork. Relations between men and women were complex affairs.
Of the three friends, Marcella was the most daring in her fashion choices. Her outfits had to cling to every curve and enhance her not-so-ample breasts. With aspirations of marrying into the white and Portuguese upper-class, she was intent on capturing the eyes of her “prince charming.”
I admired Marcella’s determination but did not share her dream. By fifteen years old, I had decided to entire the convent after graduating from high school. Mom was not at all pleased when I told her. She insisted that I continue to mix with boys, go partying, and to work for a year before making such a decision. Not wishing to create any more friction between us, I complied with her demands.
A month before my sixteenth birthday, Marcella married her prince charming. He was the youngest son of the owner of a soft drinks factory. Mom made the wedding gown and those of her bridesmaids, Catherine and Yvette. My younger sister and I had the task of sewing on the sequins and beads of the wedding gown.
I was eighteen when Mom dolled me up to attend my first office staff party during the year-end festivities. The young man who invited me as his guest was a friend of my cousins. Marcella, then a mother of an eighteen-month-old daughter, took me to her hairdresser to have my hair styled and later that evening, she dropped by to apply my facial makeup. My acne disappeared beneath the mask. Mom made a figure-flattering, emerald-green, empire line, sleeveless, Chiffon party dress. I felt pretty.
On Old Year’s Night, my best friend and her boyfriend had arranged a blind date for me so that we could party together at a night club. Getting dolled up for the last and biggest night of the year came with its own stress. For two hours at the hairdressing salon, I watched the steady flow of women get their hair styled before it was my turn. With Mom under pressure to finish her clients’ outfits on time, I had to contend with wearing the same emerald-green dress. Around eight o’clock in the evening, while she waited for Mom to do the final adjustments to her evening gown, Marcella worked her magic on my acne-pitted face. My blind date never showed up at ten o’clock, as planned. What a let down! My best friend’s boyfriend apologized for him: “He’s terrified he’s not a good dancer.” No blind dates ever again.
During the years following Guyana’s independence in 1966, Catherine and Yvette joined the exodus of the minority Portuguese-Guyanese population to Western Europe and North America. Settling in Canada, they both later married white Canadians.
I was in the convent when Marcella and her husband separated and filed for divorce. Her second marriage to an older man and successful businessman, also of Portuguese-descent, was happier and enduring. They migrated to Texas with their son and her daughter from her first marriage. Though I lost touch with her after they left Guyana, Marcella always held a special place in my heart. She was the inspiration for my character Gloria Cheong in my debut novel, Under the Tamarind Tree.
Marcella will no longer be dolling up for her husband this holiday season. In April, she died of pancreatic cancer. My heart aches. Yet, I’m joyful in remembering the time spent with her.
A wistful and heartfelt piece of your story Rosaliene, I’m sorry that effervescent woman has since passed but I’m sure she enjoyed her life whilst in it.
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Kate, during the time we were close, she sure did enjoy life. I imagine it was no different in the USA.
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Sweet story Rosaliene. I’d never heard of “Old Year’s Night” but it makes perfect sense.
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Thanks for reading, Kim. According to the Dictionary of Caribbean English Usage Edited by Richard Allsopp (1996), “it is not clear how the phrase [Old Year’s Night] became the exclusive one used in CE to denote the last day of the year and the festivities associated with it.”
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Good story, Rosaliene. It’s fascinating how life takes all kinds of twists and turns.
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It sure is fascinating, Neil! I witnessed all kinds of twists and turns in the lives of my mother’s regular clients. It took much more than looking attractive to hold onto one’s husband.
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What a beautiful New Year’s memory! I love that photo of you and your sister 😊
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Thanks very much, TCK!
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You’re welcome! 😊
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Touching ❤️
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Thanks very much ❤
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You are always welcome ❤️
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Beautiful memories keep us alive.❤️
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They certainly do, Laleh. Thanks for dropping by 🙂
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My pleasure.🌷
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Rosaliene, What a sweet story and a colorful vignette into life in Guyana in the 1980’s. Now I need to pull out my copy of “Under” to re-read about Gloria Cheong.
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Thanks for reading, Katharine! The period I describe was the 1960s. Unfortunately, I have few photos of myself during that period as I left home in 1971 to enter the convent. In my next post, I plan to share an inedited scene of her dolled up for an Old Year’s Night party.
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A lovely slice of life! It is so very sad when a good friend dies at an early age. So damned unfair!
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Thank you, John! She was in her seventies. Considering that there are people among us who are still going strong in their nineties, I suppose you can say she was still young.
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Ah! Pancreatic cancer. My sister’s husband died with it a few months back. He had fought it for two years, was about to embark on a new combination drug trial, but relapsed so that the trial was cancelled the day it was due to start. He died a week later. Unlike your sister, he was not so young, would have been 80 next March and had a good life. My sister misses him terribly but has consolation in her teacher grand-daughter. Unfortunately her son and two grandsons are in Australia (she is in England) and unable to travel due to the present situation. Thanks for keeping up with me, even though I’m neglectful of my followers.
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Frank, it’s always a pleasure hearing from you 🙂
I’m sorry to learn that your sister has lost her husband. May she and her family find strength in each other.
My sister, I’m happy to say, is alive and well. It’s a close friend from my teenage years who has passed away.
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Memorable recollections. I’m sorry that Marcella is gone.
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Thanks, Derrick. Death touches all of our lives, without exemption ❤
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Yes, indeed X
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What a beautiful tale, I was really captured by every bit of it. Thank you so much for sharing and I so look forward to more 🌺💖😊
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So glad that you found my story beautiful 🙂 Marcella was a goddess who lit up a room with her presence.
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Great story, Rosaliene! What an interesting house that must have been to grow up in. Sending my best to you and Marcella’s family who must be missing her so much, especially in this season!
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Thanks, Wynne! The Christmas and year-end festivities is, indeed, a difficult time for families who have lost a loved one. It’s in looking back at the women who have played important roles in my life that I have come to appreciate those difficult years of living with warring parents.
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Lovely pic of the two sisters! First and last blind date eh? Sorry to hear about Marcella. Take care.
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So glad you dropped by, Denzil 🙂
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I love reading stories like this. Relating all the details in such a soulful way. Thank you for sharing.
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I’m so glad that you enjoyed it! Thanks for reading 🙂
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What a lovely story, Rosaliene, though a sad note at the end. Getting dressed up and enjoying life is so important, because who knows how long we have. ❤
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Thanks, Diana! So glad you liked it 🙂 During these times of the coronavirus, I get dressed up – less the makeup, no good with a mask – to lift my spirits.
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That’s wonderful. While I stay in my pajamas all day! Lol
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This is a fantastic post/essay, Rosaliene. I was transported to the era, your mother’s seamstress business and you capture the vivacious lively characters brilliantly. What stories you must have heard, what experiences of life related by the women. You choose a very different path and one that must have been hard for some to accept. The photo of you and your sister is lovely!
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Annika, thanks so much for your fine praise!! The lives of these women informed the stories I tell about the relationships between Guyanese men and women in my debut novel, Under the Tamarind Tree.
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Oh our people! Fun, joy, hardwork, tears….dressmaking was a means of earning and socialising. I doubt it is a Caribbean thing but it is what made us proud sometimes. My grand mother, was also a seamstress (along with baking and selling basic foodstuff) so I well relate to the likely ‘characters’. Very good story. Cherish your memories.
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So glad that you enjoyed my story 🙂 I was proud of my mother’s beautiful work. Dressmaking as well as baking cakes and pastries were excellent means for stay-at-home mothers to bring in extra income for their families.
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Teaching us commerce, economics, and discipline without even trying to do so. Wonderful women.
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They were, indeed!
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Condolences, Rosaliene. A lovely and reviting story, nonetheless. And a pretty picture!
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Dr. Stein, thank you very much on all three counts!
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I love the picture of you and your sister. I am so sorry for your loss!
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Thanks, Bridget. I last met her in 1994 during my first return visit to Guyana. (I was living in Brazil at the time.) Her passing brought back memories of the good times we shared.
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Often the anticipation of getting ready for a party was as much fun as the party, sometimes even more. I’m thankful that Marcella’s second marriage was happier and enduring.
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That’s so true, JoAnna 🙂 I can only guess that her failed marriage helped her to make a better choice the second time.
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Anticipating my first date, a teen party at my church, I was so nervous with expectation, I threw up. My parents wouldn’t let me go thinking I had the flu. At least I called and didn’t just stand her up.
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Don, these things do happen. You did well in calling to cancel your date 🙂
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Thank you for sharing a part of your world!!.. life is what we make it to be and glad that you and your family had precious moments to remember.. “Life gives us brief moments with another, but sometimes in those brief moments we get memories that last a lifetime, So live that your memories will be part of your happiness.” (Author Unknown)… 🙂
Hope you are having a wonderful holiday gathering more memories and until we meet again..
May the love that you give
Always return to you,
That family and friends are many
And always remain true,
May your mind only know peace
No suffering or strife,
May your heart only know love and happiness
On your journey through life.
(Larry “Dutch” Woller)
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Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, Dutch 🙂
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Life is short — it’s true — but it sounds as if Marcella lived every moment of her life fully. I agree with Denzil — the photo of you and your sister is wonderful! Enjoy the season.
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Henry, it’s great to hear from you 🙂 Thanks for the compliments about the photo. Given the new warnings about the Omicron variant, this Christmas season will be very quiet for our family. I hope that all is as well as it could be in your world ❤
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Very interesting.
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Thanks very much, Ruqia 🙂
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Welcome sister.
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Oh Rosaliene, what a touching tribute to your sister (and mom and friends) crafted in the heart of a story. This year (these years?) has taken much from us. I am moved by your ability to weave it in the story of life.
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Thanks so much for reading, Rusty, and for your kind comments 😀
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