Father said not to worry about anything.
He was working to provide for my needs.
And I believed him.
Father said he would never let anyone hurt me.
He was there to protect me, Mother, and my brother Paul.
And I believed him.
Father said not to worry about climate change;
the science is still debatable.
And I believed him.
Father said the abortion of an unborn child is an abomination.
Life is sacred. Only God can take a life.
And I believed him.
Father said the only thing better than a bad guy with a gun
was a good guy with a gun.
And I believed him.
Father said the War on Drugs
was meant to keep me, Mother, and Paul safe.
And I believed him.
Father said the English teacher and poet I was dating was a dreamer.
He would abandon me when the going got tough.
And I believed him.
Father said Bill came from a highly respected and successful family.
He would make a good husband and father.
And I believed him.
Father said too many government regulations
are bad for business.
And I believed him.
Father said I could be whatever I wanted to become in life
—even President of the United States.
And I believed him.
Father said when we give tax breaks to big corporations,
they create more jobs.
And I believed him.
Father said the War on Terror was necessary
to keep our country safe from terrorists.
And I believed him.
Father said we have nuclear weapons as a deterrence
against mutually assured destruction.
And I believed him.
***
Father, where were you when
a crazed gunman
terrorized our college campus?
Father, where were you when
Bill escaped to Las Vegas
with his numerous lovers?
Father, where were you when
Paul paid to have his pregnant girlfriend
abort their baby?
Father, where were you when
cancer cells slowly drained Mother’s energies
and stole the smile from her gaunt cheeks?
Father, what other lies have you told me?
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Thanks, Sha’Tara ❤ Our fathers holding positions of power and influence are failing us.
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Yes, why I speak so often of “self empowerment” because “our fathers” still believed in the System, one way or the other. Their world was still getting better as they saw themselves, their families, gaining, benefiting from the status quo. They did not see the writing on the wall. Some of us began to see it even in our teens and learned to become wary of what was too easily gained or achieved, for such is not the lesson of history, nor what life teaches. “Our fathers” read the old books and re-interpreted the words to suit their belief system. This happened in religion, in government, and especially in the financial sectors where everything could be turned into a profit if you threw more money at it, and money became cheaper by the year. Now the “most powerful nation on earth” is lead by a DT, whom I call Delirium Tremens, plummeting into endless bloody strife just to stay a step ahead of its comeuppance. “Our fathers” never saw that coming, did they! Now we only have each other, either to eat one-another alive, or to learn cooperation at our lowest level of subsistence existence. The “good times” purchased with the blood of Third World poor are over, and we who drank their blood are joining them. A crude way to put it, but it’s how I see it. Again, my opinion only.
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It may be “a crude way to put it,” Sha’Tara, but you’re spot on. Now, “our fathers” are feeding on the blood of vulnerable Americans.
I recently watched the movie/documentary, “Bernie Madoff: Scamming of America.” He provided his wife and sons with a grand lifestyle. When he revealed the Big Lie, he devastated their lives and that of his daughters-in-law. Not to forget the millions of his investors who lost their pensions and savings.
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Gosh, that’s powerful!
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Thanks, Mary ❤
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On point. Very cool.
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Thanks ❤
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Powerful message, Rosaliene, and so true imho.
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Thanks, Carol ❤
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Father’s Day is so complicated, fathers are so complicated. For some the day brings happiness, for others pain. This poem reminds me of Kafka’s words, that “a book must be like an ax to break the frozen sea within us.” Thank you for this, Rosaliene.
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Dr. Stein, I’m glad you appreciate my thoughts on Father’s Day. I question the irresponsible behavior and decisions made by our fathers who hold decision-making positions in our corporations and government at all levels.
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Rosaliene, wow! This is so personal, poignant and painful. Thankyou for your honesty and a beautiful, heart wrenching piece.
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Thanks, Diana. This poem is not based on my personal experience with my father, but speaks to fathers of middle-class America.
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That makes it even better because it is entirely convincing; many will be able to relate!
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Reblogged this on Guyanese Online.
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Hope you had a great Father’s Day, Cyril. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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Thanks for sharing with your readers. Much appreciated 🙂
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Not the usual knee-jerk accolade for Father’s Day. Very powerful.
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Thanks, JoAnn. I hoped that the photo would serve that purpose 🙂
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Well, my Dad did his best for me. He spent six years of his youth, 18-24, fighting Hitler in an aeroplane for a start.
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He sure did, John. I wonder what he would think about our current never-ending wars.
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Now there’s an original message
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Thanks, Derrick 🙂
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My dad tried selling me a pretty similar set of goods. Much as I love him, I decided that he was just repeating what others have said before him.
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Thanks for dropping by, Brenda. The time has long come for us to start questioning what we’ve been taught.
Love your blog 🙂
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Thanks! I just wish my dad would rethink rather than defend the indefensible. Your blog is terrific!
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Thanks 🙂
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Rosaliene,
Powerful. How sad that so many take our parents’ words at face value. So much of life seems to be un-learning what we were taught, feeling betrayed by men (and women) who were just human but seemed like gods when we were small.
I think the current malaise in the US–and maybe other places, too–comes from a sense of betrayal by those we trusted too much. Authority figures, from parents to teachers, ministers, bosses, and government. Pretenders to knowledge, in some but not all ways. It’s just hard to distinguish which is which. I totally agree with Sha’Tara about the “self-empowerment” part. Ultimately, we are all responsible for our own lives.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Katharine. If we are to make sound decisions for our well-being and others in our community, we definitely need to be more informed about issues that affect our lives.
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Rosaliene, wow and oh my! Yes, many bad situations set into play due to a patriarchal society. I am appalled at so much of what you wrote.
Only thing I don’t mind, due to a few close people in my life is abortion. Two choices: My college friend who was raped and did get one and my grown 42 year old friend who chose not to get one and died of a quickly feeding cancer (because of pregnancy hormones). Both lives were changed but the first one lives to tell her tale. Knowing she had cancer and may not get treatment to live hurt her older children. While the teenagers of my 42 year old friend were crying saying at funeral to me: “My Mom won’t be at my wedding, my Mom will miss my college graduation and my Mom is going to miss my children’s births. Why didn’t she choose us over an unborn baby?” Powerful stuff. . . I’m glad women still have a choice and will be upset if taken away so only rich may go to another country and get one. ~Robin
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Robin, abortion is a complex issue that our religious institutions will only grasp when the male and female of our species truly become ‘one’ in equal standing and human rights.
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Thank you for your thoughtful response. I am not sure what I would do in either example I have you. Take care and I will stay in touch. You have deep issues and subjects covered here, Rosaliene.
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This is a tough one. My father was quite conservative, yet he was a good man who gave much of his time to help others. He seemed to mellow with age and I like to think he was becoming more moderate before he died, but I’m not sure because we learned that it was better for us not to talk about politics. That’s how we maintained our relationship. I’m not sure how this relates to your poem since it’s not about an individual. Maybe there’s some good deep in our fathers’ hearts in spite of what they say and the heartless damage they do. I hope and pray that their heart goodness will grow and win. Possibly with help from the mothers. And their daughters.
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Wonderful comment, JoAnna.
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Thank you.
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JoAnna, thanks for sharing about your father: All fathers are not created equally. I also avoided talking about politics with my father. While not a political activist, he maintained a close friendship with an individual holding a senior position in our dictatorship government. To him, politics and friendship were separate entities.
I agree that we mothers and daughters must play a role in growing the “heart goodness” of our husbands and fathers.
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Such a great, well thought out observation, JoAnna. I appreciate your writing this on Rosaliene’s post. Off to visit you once again. . .🌸💞
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Thanks for the nomination 🙂
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I had chills towards the end…
Very well expressed!!
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Thanks, Nikita 🙂
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a sweet cry
to heal ancestors
painful shortcomings.
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Thanks for that gem, David ❤
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Thanks for sharing! This was good!
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Thanks 🙂
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Glad you enjoyed Shin’s work 🙂
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Reblogged this on Madison Elizabeth Baylis.
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Thanks for the re-blog 🙂
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Love this!!
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Thank you ❤
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So glad I’ve tracked back through your posts and found this. What a powerful description of the perils of passivity.
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Thanks for reading, Cath 🙂
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