When a dear friend dies…
Wine shared to hail the New Year
turns tepid water.
Springs of poetic wisdom
lost down a sinkhole.
Summer strolls along the beach
end at the ocean’s edge.
Mementos stoke nostalgia
amid falling leaves.
Rain erases footprints carved
along pathways uncharted.
For Angela Consolo Mankiewicz
My dear friend and poet, Angela, died on March 7, 2017, thirteen months after her doctor discovered a cancerous speck on her right lung. The news shocked us both, and her husband of forty-seven years. She had survived breast cancer. She could beat this, too.
After meeting at what was then the Mid-Wilshire Writers’ Group, Angela and I have been friends for the past seven years. She entered my life during a difficult period. The global financial crisis had crippled my newly-started, sole-proprietor business, offering international trade services to small- and medium-sized enterprises interested in doing business with Brazil and the USA. At the personal front, I was fighting a losing battle with my mother. Angela’s poetry about her own tumultuous relationship with her mother (deceased) had resonated with me.
As my US-Brazil trade services business failed, I decided to focus more on my writing, both fiction and non-fiction. Angela read and critiqued my first novel, Under the Tamarind Tree, through its numerous revisions. With her prodding, I undertook the daunting task of working on a second novel, inspired by events that unfolded during my final year as a Catholic nun (1971-1977) living in the remote northwest, rain forest region of Guyana. (More about this in another post.)
Our friendship was a blessing in my life. As she told me last summer, during our final stroll together along Venice Beach, our friendship was “wonderfully unlikely.” She will always remain close to my heart.
Condolences on your loss, Rosaliene. Mahler’s music is imbued with heartache and, according to his disciple (the conductor Bruno Walter) a search for God. Some hear the consolation in “Das Lied von der Erde,” others the loss. Given your religious faith, you might also want to listen to his Symphony #2 (“Resurrection”), an enormously touching and uplifting work.
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Thanks, Dr. Stein. The musical choice – discovered through your latest post – expresses well my current heartache. I’ll check out Mahler’s Symphony #2 (Resurrection). Maybe, it’ll help drive away the morosity enveloping me.
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Mahler’s Symphony #2 (resurrection) should be interesting piece for Easter – the risen christ. Will tell the organist at church about my discovery through your post Rosaliene via Dr. Stein. Look what you can find out when you read.
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So true. I learn a lot from the bloggers I follow. Many of them, like Dr. Stein, enrich my life.
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It is so very hard to lose a well loved friend. When they leave they take a part of you with them. May the time be short when memories bring smiles to replace the tears.
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Thanks, Bernadette. I recall when you shared your own loss of your well loved friend. With joy comes the sorrow.
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Earth is the crucible within which we are made familiar with the concept of personal loss. It is up to each one of us to ponder the why of it, and learn, not to confront the inevitability of loss, but how to transcend it that we may rise from the crucible.
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Thanks, Sha’Tara. So true: loss is inevitable. Here’s hoping that I can transcend yet another loss and celebrate the time Angela and I walked together along this journey of earthly existence.
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A touching tribute, and I love the Mahler music too.
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Thanks, Michael. Thanks, too, for dropping by. I’ve noticed from your author’s bio that you, too, are a former high school teacher.
I look forward to continued contact through your blog.
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Ah, I’m a former middle school teacher too… in fact, I did the monkey house teaching far longer. So you will have to forgive me if my blog is slightly insane at times. 😀
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I’ll keep that in mind, Michael 🙂
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My heartfelt condolences…
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Thanks, Robert ❤
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I am so sorry, Rosaliene. I send love and hugs to you. Your tribute to your beloved friend, Angela, is so beautiful.
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Thanks, Carol. We are united in our loss ❤
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Indeed we are, Rosaliene. I still feel an ache in my heart and the world feels lonelier without my friend’s presence even though we didn’t speak often.
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❤
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Oh, Rosaliene. She was such a good, steadfast friend to have. I know you will miss her. Do miss her, now. (((Rosaliene)))
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“A good, steadfast friend…” She was, indeed, Rachel ❤
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Sounds like a wonderful friendship. I’m sorry for you loss, Rosaliene.
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Thanks, Belanger. It was, indeed.
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I think I somehow forgot to notify you that you were on my nomination list for the Lovely Blog Award https://itsnoteasytohavefaith.wordpress.com/2017/03/17/one-lovely-blog-award-thank-you/ I meant to add Sha’Tara as well, but realized I had not done so after the post was published. I gave her blog a shout out in another format…
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Thanks so much for the nomination, Belanger ❤
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My pleasure. You deserve it! 😊
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Reblogged this on Guyanese Online.
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Thanks for sharing, Cyril. Glad you’re back online 🙂
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Rosaliene, my condolences on the loss of your dear friend, Angela. Based on your special friendship, it seems Angela was an angel in your life. The sting of death is always painful, the death of a special friend is heartbreaking. We have all suffered the loss of a friend, sadly, I have lost many and I share your loss and grief. Do takr comfort that Angela will always reside within you. I hope remembering her with love will help to appease and heal your grief.
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Deen, thanks for your condolences and words of comfort. Indeed, she was an angel in my life ❤
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I share your sorrow, Rosaliene, on the transition of a Dear, Beloved Friend in Angela Consolo Mankiewicz. Trusted friendship is a hallmark of living life to the fullest in good times and bad. No, her passing is not a loss. Let her absence be an illumining guide shadowing your footsteps as you continue onwards. Her memory will not compromise to wash her presence away. Be good to yourself as you were both good to each other. Your poem tells you so. God Bless…
Leonard
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Thanks for your words of wisdom and comfort, Leonard. My second novel, now nearing completion, is the fruit of her prodding, illuminating guidance, and loving friendship ❤
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Best wishes, Rosaliene. God Bless,
Leonard
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may your dear friend
continue shining on
as a inspiration.
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Thanks, David ❤
In these times of demonizing non-white immigrants, she was a shining example of white American inclusiveness. Among other things, I thank her for that.
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Rosaliene, you flashed across my mind the other day and I was wondering why? I now see. I was reading Cyril’s blogs and stumbled on the lost of your friend. It is 4:43 in the A.M., Chicago time, and am now reading your post. Rosaliene, I know the feeling. Eternal rest grant unto Angela, O lord, and let perpetual light shine upon your dear friend, Angela. God be with you in your hour of grief.
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Yvonne, thanks for your thoughts and prayers ❤ Great hearing from you.
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A beautiful tribute and my condolences to your loss. It sounds like she was a wonderful person.
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Thanks, Sharon. Indeed, Angela was a wonderful person and friend.
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Beautiful words! I lost my 41 year old sister to breast cancer a few weeks ago. Seeing her battle this cancer hell has changed me beyond words. Check out my blog “The Heaven Telephone” and share your thoughts!
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Thanks for dropping by, Ewelina. So sorry to hear about your sister. A big hug ❤
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This was a worthy elegy.
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Thank you and thanks for dropping by 🙂
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